adoption

[sandra]

hi im new here... yes i was adopted .... horrid.... anyone else out there want to chat... not sure how this works..x

[7rin]

Hi Sandra, and welcome.

Sadly, there's only the two of us here at the moment, but I'm hoping that now one other person's joined, another'll join, and then another and another ... it'd be nice anyway 'cause I've always longed for somewhere "safe" to be able to discuss the trauma that comes with being adopted that isn't as Americentric as the other place I habituate.

It's not so nice to see that, like me, there are more of us over here who thinks that adoption sucks dusty donkey bollocks mind. Ah well, at leas it's nice to not be alone here any longer.

If you don't mind sharing (taking into account that this is a public section of the board), what do you know about you? Have you hit reunion, or are you not interested in looking?

I hit reunion almost a year ago, and I'm only just starting to come out of the traumas that it kicked in.

[blackfoot46]

Hi I'm new here too - just glad to find a non-american adoptee forum! About me - adopted at 10 weeks in 1969 - found birth mum eventually in 2004 - lots of emails and one meeting in 3 years from then and since then - nothing! What a load of crap! Been working thru it all with current counsellor for nearly a year, but had depression since 12 years old and lots of counselling late, here I am!

Will be good to talk about it some more with other adoptees, i hope?

[7rin]

Cooo, a whole three of us. Yay.

So sorry I missed getting back to you any earlier than this blackfoot, I've been suffering from my own adoption issues, which of course happen in addition to any 'normal' life issues that we may be experiencing.

Personally, I'd love to be able to find a counsellor, but Staffordshire's shite at giving a toss about the health of its inhabitants, and so once I've regained enough energy (and time - I'm at uni. as well) then I'll yet again attempt to try to convince someone somewhere that actually yes, I really do need just as much appropriate counselling as, for example, some suffering from alcoholism.

I look forward to getting to chat crap with you.

[angel333]

Hi there all - I am new also. Adopted in UK in 1959, came to Australia 1982, found birth family 1996 and everyone seemed to think that was me done and dusted, a happy ending. Ha! Try linking with a family you've never known from 12,000 miles away. And contra to common thought, if you've emigrated to another country you can't just 'go back'

Very glad to have found this and many, many things to say and share, look forward much to doing this, but just going to have a look around the site first!

[7rin]

Hi angel

Sorry I've been afk for so long, have had masses of uni. homework to do - as well as having to take a break from the whole trauma of being adopted so that I can try to focus on said homework.

Nice to meet you though, and hopefully we can start to bring this board to life now there's a few of us.

[hallpam40]

HI all

Here's another new one. I was adopted in Manchester in 1960. Here's the kicker, though, I only found out accidentally at the age of 48 that I was adopted. I am still trying to trace my birth family, although I have found out quite a bit abut them. Managed to trace a scond cousin, but he is not sure if my birth mother is still alive. I now live in South Africa and had to wait six months before I got my adoption file.

Actually always suspected that I was adopted, and even questionned adoptive family and was told flatly no! I am fine with being adopted, just hate the thought that I was lied to for so long. Both adoptive parents died before I found out, so no help there.

Anyway glad to hear that there are others out there

[7rin]

Wow, that's ... urgh!

I have no idea what you've already done in dealing with stuff and looking around, but www.latediscovery.org/ may be of some help to you.

[olga]

new to site I am 67 years old I was adopted at 8 months ,it was not good,my adopted parents wear always moving so as my natural parents could not see me ,my adopted mum knew my parents ,I would ask my mum about my family she never told me any thing .I looked for many years ,about ten years ago I found two brothers, I have met them thy are like me and my kids, get on well with one other died not long after I found them . Such a long time I did not know I have one sister and five brothers.still searching ,it is hard work.Thank you for this site .born in Yorkshire . olga xx